Hi! I'm making this topic to hear out your opinion about my current situation.
Once in a school-year, we get picked to "be on watch" at our school. That day, we don't have usual class, instead, we get paired by another student from another year.
So! I got paired up with this girl... She's a year younger than me, she's really hot, but best of all, she's really cool and smart. So, we exchanged facebook profiles and mobile
numbers, and later talked on msn whole night. We didn't talk about anything specific, we were talking just because we liked each other. It's already confirmed she likes me
just as much as I like her... She sent me that Christmas where that chick sings how all she wants for Christmas is that boy... I drew a picture of her, and she immediately put
it at her profile at fb, for everyone to see (that was sort of embarrassing though).
But it's not perfect, no, not at all... Even though we liked each other pretty much at first sight, we are collided with few problems:
- We live like 50 miles apart, maybe even more, but she's living at that thing with dorms and stuff (can't find the right word).
- She had a birthday yesterday, and today she went out with friends to celebrate it... What bugs me is, she put "Perfect birthday ever <3"
immediately on her profile... I don't know did she hook up with someone else, but there's a possibility she did... It could be that
she just had so much fun and she decided to put that status just because of that, right? (please tell me it's true).
The thing is, there's another girl, but the liking comes more from her side... I like her, but not nearly enough as I like that other girl... I was
at my friend's birthday party at the club, where her friend tried to make us hook up... I declined though, in hope that I can make it work out with
the girl I like far more. What's bugging me is, at her birthday was she in the same position, and she didn't refuse to hook up with another guy, someone inferior
(to her at least) to me?
So that's it, I hope you guys can help me out. I can think on my own, but I want to see your opinions, because I know majority of this community
is mature enough to help me solve my dilemma!
~ Thanks in advance!
if she hooked up with another guy she doesnt like you as much as you do her and i could see problems cheating down the road.
but what i would say is to keep talking to her if you truly like her that much. but to all so give the other girl a chance. who knows you might like her more.
plus its only far to give the other girl a chance seeing as how she hooked up with another guy.
im not saying hook up with her just get to know her as friends and then pick.(might make the other girl jelous :P).
thats all i can really think about right now to help with out know them irl. so just be friends with the other girl and see where that goes ;)
Quote from: krele on December 04, 2010, 10:38:29 PM
Hi! I'm making this topic to hear out your opinion about my current situation.
Once in a school-year, we get picked to "be on watch" at our school. That day, we don't have usual class, instead, we get paired by another student from another year.
So! I got paired up with this girl... She's a year younger than me, she's really hot, but best of all, she's really cool and smart. So, we exchanged facebook profiles and mobile
numbers, and later talked on msn whole night. We didn't talk about anything specific, we were talking just because we liked each other. It's already confirmed she likes me
just as much as I like her... She sent me that Christmas where that chick sings how all she wants for Christmas is that boy... I drew a picture of her, and she immediately put
it at her profile at fb, for everyone to see (that was sort of embarrassing though).
But it's not perfect, no, not at all... Even though we liked each other pretty much at first sight, we are collided with few problems:
- We live like 50 miles apart, maybe even more, but she's living at that thing with dorms and stuff (can't find the right word).
- She had a birthday yesterday, and today she went out with friends to celebrate it... What bugs me is, she put "Perfect birthday ever <3"
immediately on her profile... I don't know did she hook up with someone else, but there's a possibility she did... It could be that
she had so much fun, right? (please tell me it's true).
The thing is, there's another girl, but the liking comes more from her side... I like her, but not nearly enough as I like that other girl... I was
at my friend's birthday party at the club, where her friend tried to make us hook up... I declined though, in hope that I can make it work out with
the girl I like far more. What's bugging me is, was she in the same position, and she didn't refuse to hook up with another guy, someone inferior
(to her at least) to me?
So that's it, I hope you guys can help me out. I can think on my own, but I want to see your opinions, because I know majority of this community
is mature enough to help me solve my dilemma!
~ Thanks in advance!
-Hot, cool, and smart? I don't think so. Make sure she isn't crazy or anything first.
-50 miles is pretty far. Long distance relationships are difficult, and if she really is hot cool and smart a lot of other guys are going to be after dat ass too.
-Post the picture you drew, this will be in important for anyone who wants to give you advice. It is a crucial research item and should be put up ASAP.
-The other girl seems loyal and the fact that she's at your friend's birthday party mean's she is already in your group of friends. No introduction required, and you can just ask your friend if she's a necrophiliac or something.
Go for the 2nd girl.
Quick response, thanks alot!
@havok:
She really likes me a lot, I'm positive. But still, we can agree there's a possibility she did hook up with someone else...
When I enter a relationship, I expect the best possible experience. I don't want to enter a relationship that won't work
at all... I think that the fact we like each other so much easily overcomes the distance (call it cheesy, whatever). Being
with both girls at first, and playing around just to see which is better is something I won't even consider, it's just against
my principles.
@Yanky:
She's really withdrawn... It takes her time to collect courage to admit someone liking. I remember when I asked "what's the big deal
with the drawing, it's not so special to be a profile picture", it took her 5 minutes to say "it's because it's your's", but before she said
stuff like "I just like it", etc...
She's also sort of moody. When we were paired up, she quickly shifted from "pissed-off by tasks" to "happy" and vice-versa. Many things
piss her off, including the fact that I don't like R'n'B music.
That other girl... I just don't like her as much as I like the one I got paired up with. This is not a debate which girl should I choose, it's
for helping me out to see what should I do next =)... Thanks a lot tho! =D
Quote from: krele on December 04, 2010, 11:01:09 PM
@Yanky:
She's really withdrawn... It takes her time to collect courage to admit someone liking. I remember when I asked "what's the big deal
with the drawing, it's not so special to be a profile picture", it took her 5 minutes to say "it's because it's your's", but before she said
stuff like "I just like it", etc...
She's also sort of moody. When we were paired up, she quickly shifted from "pissed-off by tasks" to "happy" and vice-versa. Many things
piss her off, including the fact that I don't like R'n'B music.
That other girl... I just don't like her as much as I like the one I got paired up with. This is not a debate which girl should I choose, it's
for helping me out to see what should I do next =)... Thanks a lot tho! =D
What do you mean "what should I do next"? What options are there other than choosing one of the girls, somehow dating both, or dating neither?
This is my personal opinion on your post.
But before I can fully say anything without any doubt, exactly how far is 50 miles? Time wise. Bike, car, walk ect.
I say go with the first girl. You sound like someone who is not just in it for the goods. Now just because she had a really great time does not mean she hooked up with someone. Thats the first rule of building a relationship, never assume. Just by the way you describe her, I can picture your emotions towards her, which from my experience and psychological training is ALMOST, emphasis on almost, always the right choice. I say try and spend your time with her. Don't come off too strongly, but don't not express yourself. You have to find a perfect middle. So when she says "its too far" you have to find something to say that won't scare her, but will also make her feel you care.
My friend lives 3 hours away from his girlfriend. They are in one of the best relationships I've seen in my life. But, they are Mormon, so the whole cheating factor and what not does not come into play. Really it all comes down to do you trust her?
EDIT: I didn't notice the mention of mood swings. Agreeing with venuse that its is definitely a sign of caution.
if the first girl does have some mood issues such as changing at the drop of a hat i would be cautious, people with wild mood swings can be difficult to be around and you may find yourself having a hard time later down the line. i personally would avoid people with mood swings, i prefer people with level heads. now i see nothing wrong with shyness, in fact i think it is cute.
frankly i would say hold off on dating the first and get to know both alittle better, if im not confusing who has the mood swings. however considering the first lives 50 miles away it may be better to focus on the second.
thats my 2 cents and i wish you luck with who ever you decide to be with :)
I would say, get to know them a lot more, talk to them, and only after you know them a lot more, see if you really like them, after you know their personality, likes/dislikes etc...
Not sure how far 50 miles is in terms of time. Can you commute? Are you in the city.
Anyway, I've been in a similar situation, and I don't regret it, and I wish I never ended up. I was with a girl named Briallen through a decent bit of Highchool, we went to school together, she a year younger, but we of course didn't drive, and she lived say, half an hour away. We didn't get to see eachother too often outside of school. I regret ever leaving her, no girl stacks up to her, and I always regret it. So go for it man, you really like this lady, so make it work. You can see her at school everyday, and if your in the city to commute, or one of you drives, or your parents are awesome, than you set.
Also, about her good night, she doesn't need to !@#$ around to have one, and if she did, so what? It's not like you are dating, so she's allowed. Don't let it get under your skin.
@Matty:
I really don't have as much time as you think I have... Keep in mind both are looking really hot, and guys are pretty much killing each other over them. That's the whole point, I don't know her as much as I want to before entering a relationship, not nearly enough. But since we like each other that much, I'm ready to take a risk. However, there's a fine line between taking risks and being plain stupid, so I want to hear your opinion.
@Venuse:
We just talked a bit on msn... And I asked her about it. She said she just had a bad day, and how she wasn't her usual self. I don't see anything wrong with being shy, but it can get pretty annoying trying to draw everything out of her mouth... I am a person full of patience, but even that has limits. Again, I don't have much time... She's maybe already screaming at me for not asking her out already, and when her patience runs out, she might give it up. Not to mention that once another guy shows some liking to her, she might think that it's over between her and me and be in "prisoner's dilemma" whether we can make this happen or not. Thanks a lot! =D
@T-Rok:
I was wrong about the distance. It's around 50 KILOMETERS, or should I say, an hour and half by train (or so, I'm not good with measures). Well, I still need to admit the possibility, I'm not assuming, I'm asking for your opinions, and you helped me a lot now! But again, I don't know how patient she is... Considering the time we talked together, she maybe even wants me to ask her out at this very moment... I've been really careful not to say too much, but she wasn't. If I don't state my feelings soon, she might feel that I don't like her at all. But then again, if I do state my feelings now, and end up with her saying that she's afraid of long-distance commitment, I don't know what to say to her... I'm being realistic, it is really far away, I don't want to make her feel like it's not a big deal when it really is. I want her opinion whether or not does SHE think it's possible.
@Seifer:
I made a mistake, it's around 50 kilometers. I'm in the city, and she's in another. That's good to hear... I'm sorry about you two breaking up =/. Thanks for the encouragement! The thing is, in few months I'll be 18, that's the age when we're allowed to drive here. I already discussed the commuting matter with her... Oh yeah, my parent are really awesome, too =).
@All:
Keep in mind that we're attending same high-school. It's not a problem to meet during breaks, but the real nuisance are weekends and spring/winter/summer breaks... That will be the time when she could cheat on me, and whatnot, and there is literally no way for me to find out. But then again, she's in this same situation... Meh, it pretty much lays on whether we could trust each other so much.
Thanks a lot! =D
With that said, I think you should most certainly choose her than. An hour and a half commute isn't THAT bad. Take up reading, the time will fly, or at the very least, throw a movie on your Ipod. Is she worth it? If you think she's worth an hour and a half commute, than she's the one for you.
By the way, props on growing up. I don't mean to sound condescending, but the Krele I remember was much less mature. It's enjoyable to watch us all grow up.
Quote from: Seifer on December 05, 2010, 09:03:14 AM
With that said, I think you should most certainly choose her than. An hour and a half commute isn't THAT bad. Take up reading, the time will fly, or at the very least, throw a movie on your Ipod. Is she worth it? If you think she's worth an hour and a half commute, than she's the one for you.
By the way, props on growing up. I don't mean to sound condescending, but the Krele I remember was much less mature. It's enjoyable to watch us all grow up.
That's what I think too... I think it's easy to overcome such an obstacle. Waiting was never a problem for me, all I need is my phone full of music =)
Thanks, I appreciate your honesty and encouragement =)
I'm with Seifer all the way. Other than that all I can say is go for broke with the whole if you don't tell her she won't think you like her thing. Oh, and also stop assuming the worst, its bad. While in comparison the measily 30 minutes I walk every day to see my gf is nothing to an hour and a half car ride, if I throw in -40 degrees temperature we have right now perhaps it can somewhat compare and make for a good example of what you should do.
Re-read a little more: She doesn't have to think it is possible, you have to prove that it is possible. Being a guy in a good relationship is a lot of work. :P
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 11:04:57 AM
I'm with Seifer all the way. Other than that all I can say is go for broke with the whole if you don't tell her she won't think you like her thing. Oh, and also stop assuming the worst, its bad. While in comparison the measily 30 minutes I walk every day to see my gf is nothing to an hour and a half car ride, if I throw in -40 degrees temperature we have right now perhaps it can somewhat compare and make for a good example of what you should do.
Re-read a little more: She doesn't have to think it is possible, you have to prove that it is possible. Being a guy in a good relationship is a lot of work. :P
Yeah, perhaps I should look at this more optimistically... I've been in same situation as you are, walking like that every day isn't easy at all...
just to let you know 50 kilometers is 31.05 miles. so traveling as 60 mph, or 96.6 kph, would take about 31 mins which isnt too bad
kilometer to miles
kilometer/1.61= miles
mph to kph
mph x 1.61= kph
Quote from: krele on December 05, 2010, 11:16:15 AM
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 11:04:57 AM
I'm with Seifer all the way. Other than that all I can say is go for broke with the whole if you don't tell her she won't think you like her thing. Oh, and also stop assuming the worst, its bad. While in comparison the measily 30 minutes I walk every day to see my gf is nothing to an hour and a half car ride, if I throw in -40 degrees temperature we have right now perhaps it can somewhat compare and make for a good example of what you should do.
Re-read a little more: She doesn't have to think it is possible, you have to prove that it is possible. Being a guy in a good relationship is a lot of work. :P
Yeah, perhaps I should look at this more optimistically... I've been in same situation as you are, walking like that every day isn't easy at all...
You right, its not. But in the end its worth it. And if you look on the even more optimistic side, you get a whole lot of exercise. xD
Quote from: Yankyal on December 04, 2010, 10:48:19 PM-Post the picture you drew, this will be in important for anyone who wants to give you advice. It is a crucial research item and should be put up ASAP.
I found it.
(http://tuscene.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/5737924_std.jpg)
Seriously, could anyone who's seen that movie
not think of that? :P
Quote from: Hikarikuen on December 05, 2010, 11:38:35 AM
Quote from: Yankyal on December 04, 2010, 10:48:19 PM-Post the picture you drew, this will be in important for anyone who wants to give you advice. It is a crucial research item and should be put up ASAP.
I found it.
(http://tuscene.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/5737924_std.jpg)
Seriously, could anyone who's seen that movie not think of that? :P
I find your post highly un-helpful in such a serious topic. Not only is that 100% unlikely the picture he drew, but I also have no idea what you are talking about. If you are going to post here about helping krele, then do so. Do not re-rail the topic though.
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 12:54:07 PM
Quote from: Hikarikuen on December 05, 2010, 11:38:35 AM
Quote from: Yankyal on December 04, 2010, 10:48:19 PM-Post the picture you drew, this will be in important for anyone who wants to give you advice. It is a crucial research item and should be put up ASAP.
I found it.
(http://tuscene.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/5737924_std.jpg)
Seriously, could anyone who's seen that movie not think of that? :P
I find your post highly un-helpful in such a serious topic. Not only is that 100% unlikely the picture he drew, but I also have no idea what you are talking about. If you are going to post here about helping krele, then do so. Do not re-rail the topic though.
Yeah, Hikari, if your post will have no input at all, rather don't post it in the first place... You're not helping, and you deserve a kick in the nuts <3
I'd appreciate it if retarded people would stick to retarded topics, and more serious people check this topic out...
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 12:54:07 PM
Quote from: Hikarikuen on December 05, 2010, 11:38:35 AM
Quote from: Yankyal on December 04, 2010, 10:48:19 PM-Post the picture you drew, this will be in important for anyone who wants to give you advice. It is a crucial research item and should be put up ASAP.
I found it.
(http://tuscene.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/5737924_std.jpg)
Seriously, could anyone who's seen that movie not think of that? :P
I find your post highly un-helpful in such a serious topic. Not only is that 100% unlikely the picture he drew, but I also have no idea what you are talking about. If you are going to post here about helping krele, then do so. Do not re-rail the topic though.
This topic can't be that serious, and he was just making a joke, but if it bothers you that much I'll respond seriously to avoid yet another locked topic.
Krele, it seems you have changed your mind from your previous statement of "This is not a debate of which girl to choose", since, well, that's exactly what it is. Can you afford the transportation to her house? If you are broke like a lot of people, the first girl may not be the best choice. Also, as someone as said here, mood swings are a bad sign. Who knows if she'll suddenly feel lonely and since you're 50km away, she just might cheat on you or something like that. Also, if you're the worrying type, you'll get stressed out wondering what the hell she's doing over there. These are just some of the many negatives of long distance relationship. You're in highschool or something so it probably isn't that serious of a decision....I still think it'd be less stressful and you'd be happier with the 2nd girl.
EDIT:fixed some grammar mistakes due to just waking up
But Yankyal, any relationship worth having is worth working for. To a certain extent of course. The mood swings are definitely a caution sign, but for all he knows she may have been pmsing. And before any girls get all over this post, not that there are that many on this forum, I know not every girl gets all freaky from it, but some do. It all really comes down to what he is willing to do.
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 02:05:22 PM
But Yankyal, any relationship worth having is worth working for. To a certain extent of course. The mood swings are definitely a caution sign, but for all he knows she may have been pmsing. And before any girls get all over this post, not that there are that many on this forum, I know not every girl gets all freaky from it, but some do. It all really comes down to what he is willing to do.
I would've said the same thing... She claims that she just had a bad day. I already was in a long distance relationship before, but it wasn't nearly as far as in this situation. Anyways, since this is pretty much a conversation between you and me, I'd like to hear your opinion... She just asked me what if my type of a girl, and I said I want her to answer to the same question (with a minor shift of course). She pretty much described me, and while that's most likely on purpose, I did the same for her question. This is most likely the perfect time to tell her what I think about her, and that I would like to start dating her. Do you agree with this, or do you think it's a bit premature?
Well, from my point of view, it sounds like the right time to me. Because it sounds like its not right away, but its also not waaay to late. Based on your descriptions it sounds like it is right in the middle. You are not in the stages of "lust" (early) nor in the stage of "sure why not" (late), you are in a perfect middle. So I say, shoot to kill.
Quote from: venuse on December 05, 2010, 11:26:30 AM
just to let you know 50 kilometers is 31.05 miles. so traveling as 60 mph, or 96.6 kph, would take about 31 mins which isnt too bad
kilometer to miles
kilometer/1.61= miles
mph to kph
mph x 1.61= kph
Who drives at 96.6 KMH unless speeding on a highway? I highly doubt his house is one big highway away from hers.
Quote from: Seifer on December 05, 2010, 03:15:24 PM
Quote from: venuse on December 05, 2010, 11:26:30 AM
just to let you know 50 kilometers is 31.05 miles. so traveling as 60 mph, or 96.6 kph, would take about 31 mins which isnt too bad
kilometer to miles
kilometer/1.61= miles
mph to kph
mph x 1.61= kph
Who drives at 96.6 KMH unless speeding on a highway? I highly doubt his house is one big highway away from hers.
Count in all the traffic lights and other stuff, it does look like an hour +...
Quote from: Seifer on December 05, 2010, 03:15:24 PM
Quote from: venuse on December 05, 2010, 11:26:30 AM
just to let you know 50 kilometers is 31.05 miles. so traveling as 60 mph, or 96.6 kph, would take about 31 mins which isnt too bad
kilometer to miles
kilometer/1.61= miles
mph to kph
mph x 1.61= kph
Who drives at 96.6 KMH unless speeding on a highway? I highly doubt his house is one big highway away from hers.
Thats like 60 mph, thats not even speeding on a highway...
Anyways, good luck with whatever you choose, as I don't feel fit to give advice on this topic.
Highways are 100 km/h... I don't know how 90 is speeding. Heck, a non-highway road in my city is 80 km/h. And a few main roads are 60 km/h
Any normal rode in towns/cities are usualy 50, unless it's a big ass road, and most roads between towns are 80, unless it's a highway.
Well most roads are 4 lane roads in town. xD Kamloops is large trucking central station type deal so its built around 2 highways and what not. One goes all the way around the city allowing highway travel on the outer rim to get to places and the other goes straight through the city but is a lower speed and isn't exactly a highway anymore, but it breaks off of one. But all the highways outside of Kamloops are 100km/h... even the ones that connect to citys that are merely 30 minutes away. But thats not on topic. So what is on topic is waiting for krele. xD
um some of the highways here in tulsa oklahoma have speeds upto 75 miles per hour or 120.75 kilometer per hour, although most are 60 and 65 mph. 60 isnt not speeding unless you live out in the boonies and the road speed limit is like 40 and 50 mph.
In my defense, he already got a lot of advice, so I figured a joke would be tolerated. Sorry if it seemed disrespectful or something.
My 2 cents:
Not sure if people responded on these bits, but anyways...
Was there any proof, besides her being happy, that she hooked up with someone? If not, I would definitely not jump to conclusions. Perfect birthday to her could very well be spending time with her girlfriends doing girly stuff or whatever high school girls do.
The comment about "mood swings" from your description just sounds like a typical high school girl. Not to be condescending, but a lot of girls act that way. I wouldn't really be concerned about it. As long as she's pretty cool most of the time, no matter who you're getting involved in you're going to have to deal with some "rough" patches here and there.
On the travel time issue, 1 hour does not seem too bad at all. That's about a typical daily commute for the area I'm in, so... In any case, as others have mentioned, if you like her, you'll deal with it.
Quote from: krele on December 05, 2010, 08:42:56 AM
@Matty:
I really don't have as much time as you think I have... Keep in mind both are looking really hot, and guys are pretty much killing each other over them. That's the whole point, I don't know her as much as I want to before entering a relationship, not nearly enough. But since we like each other that much, I'm ready to take a risk. However, there's a fine line between taking risks and being plain stupid, so I want to hear your opinion.
In that case, I say go for whichever one you like more. If you choose the girl that lives far away, you need to make it work, you've proved that she is worth it (and you're definitely lucky to have found a girl like that), and if she really likes you too then it shouldn't be impossible to do. My only advice would be that in a long distance relationship you will
have to find a way to meet up (you going to where she lives, her coming to you, meeting halfway etc..) because if you don't see her in a long time then It'll be a lot harder.
But with all that said, if you really like and you think she's worth it, then go for it!
Quote from: T-Rok on December 05, 2010, 02:05:22 PM
But Yankyal, any relationship worth having is worth working for. To a certain extent of course. The mood swings are definitely a caution sign, but for all he knows she may have been pmsing. And before any girls get all over this post, not that there are that many on this forum, I know not every girl gets all freaky from it, but some do. It all really comes down to what he is willing to do.
Hahahaaaa. While I am not one to get psychotic every month, there are women who have used PMSing as an excuse for murder. So yeah, I could see that.
Having the best birthday of your life doesn't have to do with getting laid. Maybe a man's best birthday....>_> Granted I also don't know how old either of you are, but I'm doubting that's the case. Also, disagreeing on music isn't always a bad thing. My boyfriend and I listen to some of the same music, but he generally listens to more RnB than I do. And while we get in joke arguments about it, it's really not a relationship deal breaker... Agreeing on everything is rarely fun nor exciting. There's probably plenty of other things that you do have in common. It's okay to poke fun at each others musical interests, but it's better to not say things like " that music sucks, listen to what I like"
My boyfriend use to live 5 minutes away from me until his dad passed away last year, then he moved and lived 30 minutes away. It's definitely not 50 miles, but it's still difficult. But seeing each other on a daily basis isn't always a good thing either, you'd probably get sick of each other faster. lol. There are things you can do to make things easier (depending how old you are...) you could stay the night at each others houses, granted most parents aren't okay with this, but some are. You could also have like, webcam chats every once & a while. Or, start an online game with her, if she's into that kind of thing. Or play iSketch together. Just throwing out ideas. My point is there are ways you can still "hang out" and get to know each other without actually physically hanging out.
Quote from: Hikarikuen on December 05, 2010, 05:26:41 PM
In my defense, he already got a lot of advice, so I figured a joke would be tolerated. Sorry if it seemed disrespectful or something.
I wanna be the guy...:(
Alright, Krele. Quick reply here.
Firstly, you don't know this girl well enough to torment yourself over whether or not there is another guy. It is not worth it, trust me. If she does in fact like you, then all hope is not lost. Get to know her first, find out what she likes/dislikes, then you can worry about all that. I think that if you can truely see yourself with this girl, and she makes you happy when you're around her, then go for it, my man. If it does not work out, I would move on and see if the other girl is your type, and if it could work. Idk if this helps, but it's my input. lol. It's cool that you ask us things like this, though. This community is like a small family in a way. It is to me, anyways.
Good luck, Krele! Go get her, tiger ;)
like T-Rok said, any relationship worth having is worth working for. That's the truth.
Sorry to revive this... Just wanted to post what happened...
So I didn't want to shoot to kill, because I felt it's kinda too early...
We talked a lot, I got to know her much better, etc... So yesterday,
we were on skype, making fools out of ourself on webcams... That's
when she told me "I'm really special to her"... It was a pretty good
feeling, and she finally gave me something that's 100% positive, and
there's no negative side to it... So I felt like telling her how I feel, and
how I think we could really have a good relationship. Since I couldn't
see her at school 'till Wednesday, I wanted to send her a message on
facebook. That's when I noticed a new-feed "Sarah is in relationship with
Mario *some last name*"... I was really confused and sort of disappointed.
I understood what kind of person she really was... I wasn't wrong when I
assumed she might've hooked up with someone else. So there she comes on msn,
like nothing happened, saying "=( Wasn't it your turn to start a convo?", to
what I responded with "Aren't you in a relationship now"... Then she started
talking about how it's not a relationship "YET", etc... She then asked me did
I count on her being me girlfriend, to which I responded affirmatively. In the
end she explained how she doesn't believe in distance-relationships, and how
she's afraid to get into it... I told her what I think about relationships like
that, and how it was pretty childish of her to do what she did...
My question is, What-The-!@#$? WHY on earth do you keep telling someone
that you like him, and that he's special to you if you don't want a relationship
with him? And then you totally screw him over over the night! Why did she
still start a conversation with me? What's the whole "not-a-relationship-yet"
thing? What's the big deal? Do I have right to be pissed? Where did I go wrong?
Perhaps in this age it's ridiculous to show liking to only one girl/boy?
~ Krele
Welcome to the world of women and dating.
And quite honestly, that is all there is to it :/ I'm sorry man, that sucks, but this kind of thing seems to happen more often than not. Just gotta chug along and find the person who really feels the way they say they do.
She was leading you on. She likes attention. Women are !@#$ed up, Krele.
Just don't dwell over it. She told you all that nonsense, only to go back on her word. I know it sucks, I really do, but she is obviously not worth it, Krele. You want somebody that can't look you in the eye and lie to you.
Ehh... I did consider a possibility, but didn't know she was that kind of a person... Usually girls I don't like end up being awesome as a person, and every girl I really like ends up being a whore...
This never happened to me before... But that could be because I spent a year and a half with one girl...
Just keep trying. You'll find somebody. It could take years, but it'll be well worth it.
You went wrong nowhere, and well you do have a right to feel anger, don't feel the anger towards her or anyone in particular. She may have been hurt in a long distance relationship. It sounds like she really does like you, but she is afraid. The question is are you willing to make every attempt you can to get her? I spent essentially a year watching my now girlfriend date other guys because she was, and I quote her "blind to her rebellion and confused" and could not see what she really felt. Its cheesy and kind've put more simplistically, but you will get the point. I understood what was happening and so I was there for her when she needed me, no matter what it was. I'm sure you can understand how hard this was, and I do not suggest it for anyone, nor do I condone it except for under the proper circumstances. You have to figure out a few things.
1. How much do you like her
2. Are you dating just to figure out what type of girl you like, or because you want her forever (yes I know this is something you don't ask younger people usually, but being Mormon teaches you a few things about how to find someone.)
3. After a year, where would you and her be? 2 years?
4. Is it worth it.
5. Is she just as crazy as you?
In my scenario, 1 was more than anyone could understand, 2 is already answered above, 3 was still together, 4 was definitely, and 5 was yes. So unless you feel that there is no way ever that once you started dating her you would never give up on her I don't suggest you hang on while she dates others and plays you, possibly even without knowing she is playing you. Nor do I suggest friendship because you will still possibly be hurt, but friendship is a personal choice. Its a very difficult decision to make and most of society will end up with the answer of no, but if you are one of the few who end up with the answer of yes, I hope your burden is light.
I hope I have helped in some sort of way. What I say may take aback a few people, but hey its the truth in my opinion. I suggest others also share their opinion to create a comparison for Krele.
edit: @Bread: No where has she gone back on her word, she never once promised anything.
edit 2: How old are you Krele? Want make sure I'm not using super intensive ideas and suggestion on a little feller.
Quote from: krele on December 13, 2010, 07:02:08 PM
Ehh... I did consider a possibility, but didn't know she was that kind of a person... Usually girls I don't like end up being awesome as a person, and every girl I really like ends up being a whore...
This never happened to me before... But that could be because I spent a year and a half with one girl...
Wait how old are you ? In my age group theres no on dating. But theres always a couple of kids who talk about immature stuff like fapping but after i started having health class we talk about stds ect o.o.
Quote from: T-Rok on December 13, 2010, 07:09:11 PM
edit: @Bread: No where has she gone back on her word, she never once promised anything.
When you are a female, and you tell another male how you like him and he is special to you, and then go and get into another relationship shortly after, I consider it going back on your words. If she truely felt that way, she would have at least tried, instead of jumping into the hands of another person. T-Rok, if you were so special to me, and I really liked you, I wouldn't hook up with DaemonClawz simply cause he is closer in distance. I would keep my word that YOU are special to me, not Mario *some last name*
I understand that, but as we all know, girls are all confused. Except you DT, your not confused because you play video games. xD
Quote from: T-Rok on December 13, 2010, 07:23:28 PM
DT, your not confused because you play video games. xD
Ahaha, amen dude.
Quote from: krele on December 13, 2010, 06:49:32 PM
Sorry to revive this... Just wanted to post what happened...
So I didn't want to shoot to kill, because I felt it's kinda too early...
We talked a lot, I got to know her much better, etc... So yesterday,
we were on skype, making fools out of ourself on webcams... That's
when she told me "I'm really special to her"... It was a pretty good
feeling, and she finally gave me something that's 100% positive, and
there's no negative side to it... So I felt like telling her how I feel, and
how I think we could really have a good relationship. Since I couldn't
see her at school 'till Wednesday, I wanted to send her a message on
facebook. That's when I noticed a new-feed "Sarah is in relationship with
Mario *some last name*"... I was really confused and sort of disappointed.
I understood what kind of person she really was... I wasn't wrong when I
assumed she might've hooked up with someone else. So there she comes on msn,
like nothing happened, saying "=( Wasn't it your turn to start a convo?", to
what I responded with "Aren't you in a relationship now"... Then she started
talking about how it's not a relationship "YET", etc... She then asked me did
I count on her being me girlfriend, to which I responded affirmatively. In the
end she explained how she doesn't believe in distance-relationships, and how
she's afraid to get into it... I told her what I think about relationships like
that, and how it was pretty childish of her to do what she did...
My question is, What-The-!@#$? WHY on earth do you keep telling someone
that you like him, and that he's special to you if you don't want a relationship
with him? And then you totally screw him over over the night! Why did she
still start a conversation with me? What's the whole "not-a-relationship-yet"
thing? What's the big deal? Do I have right to be pissed? Where did I go wrong?
Perhaps in this age it's ridiculous to show liking to only one girl/boy?
~ Krele
I told you meng, the 2nd girl sounded like a great person. People with "mood changes" are just too !@#$ing lazy to keep themselves in check and act out on every impulse. I.E a total bitch. And no, you have no right to be pissed, since you didn't seem like you were showing her that you were interested. Either that or she likes having a lot of guys dote on her at once so she can suck up maximum amounts of attention.
Go go go 2nd girl.
Quote from: Bread on December 13, 2010, 07:25:48 PM
Quote from: T-Rok on December 13, 2010, 07:23:28 PM
DT, your not confused because you play video games. xD
Ahaha, amen dude.
Ummmm... I'm not sure if I should take that as a compliment or not... x.x
She lead you on, I would be upset if I were in your shoes. I don't blame her for the long distance thing, but really? "you're special to me"? You don't say that to a guy you don't have feelings for... She probably has a crush on you, but the thing with this mario guy is more... real? he lives near her (I assume) and it's possible she might have feelings for both of you and just went with the more "accessible" guy. I don't think you went wrong, I think you just lucked out...
sounds like you got owned. ide say the best thing to do is start harboring anger deep down until you pop kill all your family members and start a new life as a serial rapist, thatd show her
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 12:20:49 AM
sounds like you got owned. ide say the best thing to do is start harboring anger deep down until you pop kill all your family members and start a new life as a serial rapist, thatd show her
Fail troll is epic fail. Grow some balls and grow up sir.
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 12:20:49 AM
sounds like you got owned. ide say the best thing to do is start harboring anger deep down until you pop kill all your family members and start a new life as a serial rapist, thatd show her
Isn't he the one that started that topic about dreams asking why he dreamt such strange things..? He may have answered his own question while trolling again. xD
@DT: It was a compliment. lol
ps. The Forums spell checker doesn't include "dreamt" as a word. How strange. Had to add it manually and we all know how much I hate manual labour. (doesn't have labour either but thats cause its Canadian.)
i dont understand why people always jump troll card i was just giving advice, the term is over rated if you ask me
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 02:32:26 PM
i dont understand why people always jump troll card i was just giving advice, the term is over rated if you ask me
Because your advice is of troll quality, it is of no use to anyone. You are not funny and you are not clever.
Now stop filling his topic with useless garbage. That's what 4chan is for, go have at it.
@ T-rok: sooo, the playing of video games makes me not a confused female? If that's the case, maybe you all should stop trying to flirt and suck up to women, just get them all to play video games. All your women problems will be solved.
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 14, 2010, 03:38:58 PM
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 02:32:26 PM
i dont understand why people always jump troll card i was just giving advice, the term is over rated if you ask me
Because your advice is of troll quality, it is of no use to anyone. You are not funny and you are not clever.
Now stop filling his topic with useless garbage. That's what 4chan is for, go have at it.
@ T-rok: sooo, the playing of video games makes me not a confused female? If that's the case, maybe you all should stop trying to flirt and suck up to women, just get them all to play video games. All your women problems will be solved.
I don't have to flirt nor do I have to suck up to women. I have a gf who plays video games. :P I was just making sure I didn't offend anyone and thats the best I could think of xD
Quote from: T-Rok on December 14, 2010, 03:46:24 PM
I don't have to flirt nor do I have to suck up to women. I have a gf who plays video games. :P I was just making sure I didn't offend anyone and thats the best I could think of xD
Are you calling women sensitive and easily offended?
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 14, 2010, 03:38:58 PM
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 02:32:26 PM
i dont understand why people always jump troll card i was just giving advice, the term is over rated if you ask me
Because your advice is of troll quality, it is of no use to anyone. You are not funny and you are not clever.
Now stop filling his topic with useless garbage. That's what 4chan is for, go have at it.
@ T-rok: sooo, the playing of video games makes me not a confused female? If that's the case, maybe you all should stop trying to flirt and suck up to women, just get them all to play video games. All your women problems will be solved.
you sure put me in my place hmm fiesty
Quote from: T-Rok on December 14, 2010, 03:46:24 PM
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 14, 2010, 03:38:58 PM
Quote from: TANK on December 14, 2010, 02:32:26 PM
i dont understand why people always jump troll card i was just giving advice, the term is over rated if you ask me
Because your advice is of troll quality, it is of no use to anyone. You are not funny and you are not clever.
Now stop filling his topic with useless garbage. That's what 4chan is for, go have at it.
@ T-rok: sooo, the playing of video games makes me not a confused female? If that's the case, maybe you all should stop trying to flirt and suck up to women, just get them all to play video games. All your women problems will be solved.
I don't have to flirt nor do I have to suck up to women. I have a gf who plays video games. :P I was just making sure I didn't offend anyone and thats the best I could think of xD
I didn't mean you specifically, I just meant men in general. lol. But really, the girls I know that play video games seem more laid back while my friends who go out clubbing and drinking constantly seem to have way more drama.
QuoteAre you calling women sensitive and easily offended?
Trying to dig him a hole are we? lol. But honestly, yes, most women are. True story.
Shut up people keep the topic on topic to krele
I think what these fine gentlemen are trying to say is that by and large, women who play video games are much more logical and levelheaded. As opposed to flighty and air-headed.
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 08:31:59 PM
I think what these fine gentlemen are trying to say is that by and large, women who play video games are much more logical and levelheaded. As opposed to flighty and air-headed.
They're also more like men. A lot of women I know who play videogames also seek attention from male gamers or are fat.
Quote from: Forum on December 14, 2010, 05:46:48 PM
Shut up people keep the topic on topic to krele
We're talking about girls and their tendencies until krele returns with an update on his situation, you silly topic nazi. We're on topic.
Quote from: Yankyal on December 14, 2010, 09:07:20 PM
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 08:31:59 PM
I think what these fine gentlemen are trying to say is that by and large, women who play video games are much more logical and levelheaded. As opposed to flighty and air-headed.
They're also more like men. A lot of women I know who play videogames also seek attention from male gamers or are fat.
You have it backwards. Manly or fat women turn to video games because society shuns them, and thus they find solace in their own house, and turn to a constant form of entertainment one can do alone, video games. Don't mix these up. We are talking about socially acceptable girls who ALSO enjoy video gaming because they can, not because they have nothing better to do.
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 09:45:48 PM
Quote from: Yankyal on December 14, 2010, 09:07:20 PM
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 08:31:59 PM
I think what these fine gentlemen are trying to say is that by and large, women who play video games are much more logical and levelheaded. As opposed to flighty and air-headed.
They're also more like men. A lot of women I know who play videogames also seek attention from male gamers or are fat.
You have it backwards. Manly or fat women turn to video games because society shuns them, and thus they find solace in their own house, and turn to a constant form of entertainment one can do alone, video games. Don't mix these up. We are talking about socially acceptable girls who ALSO enjoy video gaming because they can, not because they have nothing better to do.
*clicks like button*
Agreeing with this. My gf is neither manly nor fat. She just enjoys sitting down once in awhile and playing a round of guitar hero or something like that.
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
Quote from: T-Rok on December 14, 2010, 10:49:54 PM
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 09:45:48 PM
Quote from: Yankyal on December 14, 2010, 09:07:20 PM
Quote from: Seifer on December 14, 2010, 08:31:59 PM
I think what these fine gentlemen are trying to say is that by and large, women who play video games are much more logical and levelheaded. As opposed to flighty and air-headed.
They're also more like men. A lot of women I know who play videogames also seek attention from male gamers or are fat.
You have it backwards. Manly or fat women turn to video games because society shuns them, and thus they find solace in their own house, and turn to a constant form of entertainment one can do alone, video games. Don't mix these up. We are talking about socially acceptable girls who ALSO enjoy video gaming because they can, not because they have nothing better to do.
*clicks like button*
Agreeing with this. My gf is neither manly nor fat. She just enjoys sitting down once in awhile and playing a round of guitar hero or something like that.
Excuse you Yanky, I am not fat nor do I seek attention. Thanks much.
I agree with Seifer.
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
Quote from: T-Rok on December 15, 2010, 11:52:34 AM
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
I present to everyone a picture perfect example of a forum post that inevitably leads to derailment and the locking of threads.
EDIT: for clarification, this causes flame wars.
Quote from: T-Rok on December 15, 2010, 11:52:34 AM
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
Honor.
Anyway, chubby chasing is silly, but having a taste for curvy girls is fine. And don't confuse these either. A girl can have broad hips, nice thighs, nice ass, without having excess flab. That is the distinction. Liking a girl who is curvy is fine, being into grabbing rolls and pretending they are boobs is not cool.
I hate being a Moderator with opinions. :(
Quote from: T-Rok on December 15, 2010, 11:52:34 AM
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
i do try pretty hard not to look like a grammar whore, im glad you noticed.
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 01:37:59 PM
Quote from: T-Rok on December 15, 2010, 11:52:34 AM
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
i do try pretty hard not to look like a grammar whore, im glad you noticed.
(i was also reffering to your girlfreind clarisse)
Tank, in the future, please use the EDIT button, as opposed to double posting.
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 01:37:59 PM
Quote from: T-Rok on December 15, 2010, 11:52:34 AM
Quote from: TANK on December 15, 2010, 10:54:17 AM
i dont know t rock weighing 175 for a girl is pretty chunky
I gave you the benefit of doubt and searched the topic high and low, over and over, for a post containing a weight of 175. Due to no post within pertaining to said number, I would like to give you a certificate of declaration of stupidity. But, this is not all, no not at all. My team of highly trained gophers have also informed me that your have achieved the "Punctuation is for fools!" medal. And, if you, and only you, act now you could receive today a FREE "-". Thats right, and this deal is only for you. This is a great honour indeed. Now I know you will want to be all like "Thank you, thank you! I tried so hard." But please, its just my job so lets stay on topic here.
While yes, 175 would be considered chunky to a majority of society, have you never heard of "Chubby Chasers"? One of my best friends prefers the women he dates with a little more on the side if you know what I mean. But since (and this is purely based on what I've read here) it doesn't seem like any of the female population that Krele, the other posters of this topic and I have been talking about fall into this category this is irrelevant. Now then, Krele really needs to hurry back before this topic ends up being locked from lack of on-topicness
ps. Name is T-Rok, not t rock. You may also call me Pebble if you so wish.
EDIT: DT way to post while I was typing. Made me have to click post twice, jeez. :P Also forgot to quote him so people know who I'm talking to, added now. xD
i do try pretty hard not to look intelligible, im glad you noticed.
fixed.
So Krele, you should update us on this story. You gonna go for girl number 2 now? or neither?
First thing, let me clarify something. I'm soon to be 18 years old, in 2+ months to be exact.
Also!
@Yanky on page3:
I did show her I'm really interested... She knew it for a fact.
Anyways, an update. We talked today, because I wanted to know the truth. This whole thing is really complicated like hell, so I needed to make sure I did nothing wrong. I asked her questions about what happened and she was answering.
Q: Why showing me any signs of interest in first place while you can't handle the distance in the first place?
A: You mistook it for interest... I wanted you to be my friend.
Q: Then why telling me it's 'cause of the distance? You could've just said the real deal.
A: I didn't know you long enough, and I didn't know how you would've reacted.
Q: So then, you tell every friend of your's "You're really special to me"?
A: I said it because you're different from my other friends.
Q: You know me for 2 weeks, you have nothing to base it of if you said it for friendship purposes.
A: That was enough.
Q: But it wasn't enough for you to simply say the real deal about you "not liking" me? You're contradicting yourself.
A: ...
Q: Why sending me that xmas song? You do that to everyone?
A: I just wanted you to see how I liked xmas =)
Q: And you chose that song, and you chose me to express yourself? For all I know, you could've sent "jingle bells", not "santa can you hear me"... The lyrics were just too strong for me to throw away.
A: So what? -.-
Q: Why then, did you ask me questions regarding my love life? (do you have a girl you like currently, what's your type of a girl, your longest relationship, etc)
A: I just asked it, what's the big deal?
Q: So you're saying you were only interested in my love life, not my hobbies or anything else? And yet you didn't like me?
A: ...
Q: About the drawing, why were you so interested in who I drew that night? To the point of being obsessed with it?
A: I thought it might be me.
Q: Why would you think so?
A: And why is that drawing so important?
AA: Because you put it as your friggin' avatar! It means it meant something to you.
Q: Why did you wait for me to start a conversation?
A: Because I didn't want to be boring.
Q: And why is that? If you wanted only friendship, being boring wouldn't matter all that much to you.
A: How do you know?
Q: And you're claiming all these things I've mentioned are mere coincidence?
A: I don't have any more will to answer your stupid questions.
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That's it for the questioning part... She claims she didn't like me in the first place, and how she only wanted friendship... Yet, she did many things that are SCREAMING that she liked/likes me.
My theory is:
She DID hook up with Mario that night (did I mention it was her birthday?). That day she was especially silent, talked little, etc... Later on, when she wasn't so sure that guy wants anything from her, she started the conversation and told me I was special to her... This Saturday everything went downhill, and most likely two of them hooked up again. On Sunday, we were on webcam, fooling around etc... 'Till like 3 AM. I went to sleep, and when I woke up for school I checked her facebook profile to put a heart or two. Unfortunately, I've seen the relationship change, and I couldn't believe it...
So, she kept me on the hook in case this guy didn't want anything else with her. She's just a girl that couldn't imagine being alone on christmas, and wanted to be with someone she likes... Each Saturday when they met, she was weird and silent, but the day after, when she noticed that guy didn't ask her for a relationship, she would turn to me. And know she's claiming she only wanted friendship, in order to protect herself, since what she did was really bitchy.
Now tell me, is it true that she never liked me, even though everything is suggesting she did? Did I do something wrong? Is there anything else I should ask her? Does my theory make sense to you, or do you thought of the same thing?
Thanks in advance, and no need to mention it, I've turned to second girl =)
I won't predict this girl's mindset, because honestly man, you're wasting your time even dragging this on. I'm not saying this to stir the pot, but seriously, there is a lack of maturity right here (on her part, you're actually shocking me), and all your effort is being misdirected. Let it go, grab a Pepsi, and file it under the learning experiences drawer. She is confused beyond belief, and I will tell you that any effort you put towards her is going to go no where, because she is so lost in Candy Land. It's gonna take a real big hook and worm to pull her head out of her ass to mature and realize that her mindset when it comes to relationships is so far in left field, and you shouldn't be the one losing sleep over her short-comings trying to redirect her. Let it go, and live life stress-free.
Go for the new #1!!
And as every teenager hates being told, despite its truth: "It builds character". You'll understand it in due time.
Shockingly, I agree with Scotty. You're kinda dragging it on with this girl and it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, especially if she's only known you for two weeks and says you're "special" to her. She did lead you on, and I agree it sounds like she really did like you. But right now, all your questions are probably just pissing her off and making her feel guilty. You'll get nothing else from her.
Now do we get stories about the second girl?? ;P
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 15, 2010, 08:32:06 PMYou're kinda dragging it on with this girl and it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, especially if she's only known you for two weeks and says you're "special" to her. She did lead you on, and I agree it sounds like she really did like you. But right now, all your questions are probably just pissing her off and making her feel guilty. You'll get nothing else from her.
Don't even think that far into it Krele. She's not worth your time. At this point, it's just an infatuation that you feel for her, nothing more. Infatuations wear off. It's several years worth of a solid relationship that get cut short that will wear you down (believe me, I can vouch for that claim). At this point, let it go, don't think about it, just drop it like a Saturday night cheap corner block hooker with a bad case of gonosyphiherpalitis. Move on with your life, there's no sense in pursuing this any further. Life is short, make the most of it. Live and learn from mistakes made in the past, even if they aren't your mistakes.
Quote from: Scotty on December 15, 2010, 09:28:13 PM
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 15, 2010, 08:32:06 PMYou're kinda dragging it on with this girl and it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, especially if she's only known you for two weeks and says you're "special" to her. She did lead you on, and I agree it sounds like she really did like you. But right now, all your questions are probably just pissing her off and making her feel guilty. You'll get nothing else from her.
Don't even think that far into it Krele. She's not worth your time. At this point, it's just an infatuation that you feel for her, nothing more. Infatuations wear off. It's several years worth of a solid relationship that get cut short that will wear you down (believe me, I can vouch for that claim). At this point, let it go, don't think about it, just drop it like a Saturday night cheap corner block hooker with a bad case of gonosyphiherpalitis. Move on with your life, there's no sense in pursuing this any further. Life is short, make the most of it. Live and learn from mistakes made in the past, even if they aren't your mistakes.
Yes, 2 weeks is really nothing. And I get highly annoyed at people who say they love their significant other after a month. (I know you didn't say you love her, this is just a generalization). You barely learn anything after a month. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. And that's still not very long compared to some people. Although one of my highschool friends(she's a senior right now) and her boyfriend is 2 or 3 years older than her, they've been dating for 1 or 2 years, have broken up at least 8 times, and he's been away in the navy for 80% of their "relationship" and yet they wanted to get married? stupid. /rant.
Anyways, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. Have fun while you're young! (minus the diseases...) lol.
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 15, 2010, 10:04:23 PM
Quote from: Scotty on December 15, 2010, 09:28:13 PM
Quote from: DarkTrinity on December 15, 2010, 08:32:06 PMYou're kinda dragging it on with this girl and it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, especially if she's only known you for two weeks and says you're "special" to her. She did lead you on, and I agree it sounds like she really did like you. But right now, all your questions are probably just pissing her off and making her feel guilty. You'll get nothing else from her.
Don't even think that far into it Krele. She's not worth your time. At this point, it's just an infatuation that you feel for her, nothing more. Infatuations wear off. It's several years worth of a solid relationship that get cut short that will wear you down (believe me, I can vouch for that claim). At this point, let it go, don't think about it, just drop it like a Saturday night cheap corner block hooker with a bad case of gonosyphiherpalitis. Move on with your life, there's no sense in pursuing this any further. Life is short, make the most of it. Live and learn from mistakes made in the past, even if they aren't your mistakes.
Yes, 2 weeks is really nothing. And I get highly annoyed at people who say they love their significant other after a month. (I know you didn't say you love her, this is just a generalization). You barely learn anything after a month. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. And that's still not very long compared to some people. Although one of my highschool friends(she's a senior right now) and her boyfriend is 2 or 3 years older than her, they've been dating for 1 or 2 years, have broken up at least 8 times, and he's been away in the navy for 80% of their "relationship" and yet they wanted to get married? stupid. /rant.
Anyways, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. Have fun while you're young! (minus the diseases...) lol.
You must know a whole lot of us Mormons if they are all like that. lol We are all usually married by our early 20's. (Although the rule is no sex before marriages, soooo.. well you get the point. My gf has even already picked out a ring. Hahahaha xD)
But yeah, everyone beat me to it whilst I was at work. I'd say forget about her and quote the famous words of Joey to Girl #2. In case you don't know Joey's favourite words, click here (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afzH-38sJ1A)
@Scotty:
I don't want to drag it on... I just wanted to see how many people would agree with me, this girl is just a confused attention whore that rushed for it and then changed her mind... I just wanted to know the truth, so I asked her about those things that bothered me. I never knew someone only a year younger than me could be so immature, but then again, I was just as immature as she was a year ago (sorry for shocking you, though!). Yes, I'm definitely learning from this experience, I'm thankful that she opened my eyes a little bit. I never believed someone would play me like that, even though it happened to many of my friends.
I'm so getting drunk, high and hospitalized this Saturday =)
@Trinity:
Good to know a girl (sorry, a woman) agrees. I'm not dragging it... I just wanted her to tell me the truth, that's the least she owes me. I already dislike her for a person she turned out to be, not to mention I wouldn't be with person like her if she was my last option. I am making her feel guilty, guilt is what she's supposed to feel.
Don't jinx it! I hope this other girl is not half as problematic as the first one was! But of course I'm gonna ask you guys (and a woman) for advice, if dilemma strikes me again ;)
@T-Rok:
No matter, your advice was a great deal of help, to say at least. And that Joey pointer... well it's pretty... valid?
Thanks ;)
Quote from: krele on December 16, 2010, 10:30:44 AM
@Scotty:
I don't want to drag it on... I just wanted to see how many people would agree with me, this girl is just a confused attention whore that rushed for it and then changed her mind... I just wanted to know the truth, so I asked her about those things that bothered me. I never knew someone only a year younger than me could be so immature, but then again, I was just as immature as she was a year ago (sorry for shocking you, though!). Yes, I'm definitely learning from this experience, I'm thankful that she opened my eyes a little bit. I never believed someone would play me like that, even though it happened to many of my friends.
I'm so getting drunk, high and hospitalized this Saturday =)
@Trinity:
Good to know a girl (sorry, a woman) agrees. I'm not dragging it... I just wanted her to tell me the truth, that's the least she owes me. I already dislike her for a person she turned out to be, not to mention I wouldn't be with person like her if she was my last option. I am making her feel guilty, guilt is what she's supposed to feel.
Don't jinx it! I hope this other girl is not half as problematic as the first one was! But of course I'm gonna ask you guys (and a woman) for advice, if dilemma strikes me again ;)
@T-Rok:
No matter, your advice was a great deal of help, to say at least. And that Joey pointer... well it's pretty... valid?
Thanks ;)
Haha, I hope your taking the Joey pointer as a joke. xD Unless that other girl finds that sort of thing funny. :P I'm glad I could've been of at least some help. Enjoy your Saturday, but you should play Guitar Hero instead of that hospitalized part. Haha :P
Quote from: T-Rok on December 16, 2010, 12:18:04 PM
Quote from: krele on December 16, 2010, 10:30:44 AM
@Scotty:
I don't want to drag it on... I just wanted to see how many people would agree with me, this girl is just a confused attention whore that rushed for it and then changed her mind... I just wanted to know the truth, so I asked her about those things that bothered me. I never knew someone only a year younger than me could be so immature, but then again, I was just as immature as she was a year ago (sorry for shocking you, though!). Yes, I'm definitely learning from this experience, I'm thankful that she opened my eyes a little bit. I never believed someone would play me like that, even though it happened to many of my friends.
I'm so getting drunk, high and hospitalized this Saturday =)
@Trinity:
Good to know a girl (sorry, a woman) agrees. I'm not dragging it... I just wanted her to tell me the truth, that's the least she owes me. I already dislike her for a person she turned out to be, not to mention I wouldn't be with person like her if she was my last option. I am making her feel guilty, guilt is what she's supposed to feel.
Don't jinx it! I hope this other girl is not half as problematic as the first one was! But of course I'm gonna ask you guys (and a woman) for advice, if dilemma strikes me again ;)
@T-Rok:
No matter, your advice was a great deal of help, to say at least. And that Joey pointer... well it's pretty... valid?
Thanks ;)
Haha, I hope your taking the Joey pointer as a joke. xD Unless that other girl finds that sort of thing funny. :P I'm glad I could've been of at least some help. Enjoy your Saturday, but you should play Guitar Hero instead of that hospitalized part. Haha :P
Yeah, I knew it was a joke, hence the multiple "..." =)