Need some advice... About my girlFRIEND

[krele]

As some of you already know, you helped me overcome a situation in my love life before. So since that worked well, I decided to post another one up for a debate.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not confused, nor am I impaired haha, but forums are a place where we can discuss and help each other, right? While this time it's apparently
about my girlfriend, I bet your advice is going to be really useful to me ;).

So here's the story. We've been together for only a month by now, and I'm her third boyfriend. It is kind of weird, since I'm 18 and she's 17 years old, but who am I to judge?
We're literally neighbors, being only 100 meters away from each other, and yet we see each other every two - three days. She claims it's due to her "tight schedule", but I
would bet my eyes that my schedule is far, far, FAR more cluttered than her own. The day I'm posting this, we didn't see each other for 6 days, nor did we talk for more than
few minutes. At the start of the relationship, we were going out daily, and talked for at least an hour on skype, etc... Then I noticed it was always me to start texting/calling
her, she never did it. Then I decided to stop for a while, because I was fed up with it. 4 days later, she sends me a message: (for humor's sake, I'll post the real version and a translation)

aa smijes se ti i javit nekad hah. ja neam para na racunu na fejss nemogu i na skypu sam ti poslala jedno 10 poruke :P.

Your turn.

aa you may contact me sometimes hah. I'm out of money on my mobile phone can't come on facebook and I've sent you 10 messages on skype.

Your turn.

So okay, I was a jerk, but now I knew for a fact she missed me. She would've done the same, I bet. So ok, I responded and called her right away, we went out, etc.. And
since she asked me to contact her more oftenly, I decided to do so. I sent her messages daily on phone and facebook, and it took her hours to respond every time. So I told
her that it wasn't really cool, because now she stopped texting me again. In reality, I don't really care about things like this, but I won't give her attention she doesn't deserve.
We had a fight about a day when we went camping (first of May), and we didn't speak a word for 3-4 days again. Then once at my training session (tricking for the win!) I
decided to call her and discuss it. When I asked her what's the problem, she responded with "we're in a fight, I guess?". Ok, I guess we were, but what the hell, she waited for
me to call her again to talk about it. So I asked why is she doing it, and she responded with "I'm really busy right now, there's something I need to tell you, but I can't over the
phone". I was really pissed, because she mentioned she had training sessions, school, competitions just as I did, but yet again here I am, calling her in the middle of my own
session.

So tomorrow morning, she sent me a message saying her dad might have cancer, and how he's not feeling well... and how that was the reason she couldn't answer my calls,
messages, etc. While I understand the situation she is going through, and I really know how hard this all is for her, I can't help but wonder.. If she told me this beforehands,
I would slap her silly and tell her to make a sandwich for her father if she wanted to go out. She told me she couldn't say this to everyone, and while I admit it is really hard
to deal with and it should be kept in family circles, I still need to say... What the fck? I never needed to know that, I would be satisfied with "Hey, I've got some personal
stuff to take care about first, we might not be able to see each other for a week or two". Not only that, I'm positive 99% of girls would want their boyfriends to comfort them.

In the meantime, she went to some events in the city with her friends, visited facebook every hour or two, but never managed to answer my messages or go out with me. Is
it wrong and immoral of me to ask myself is this all true? I said I was sorry about making a fuss about it, and she never replied. What the heck is going on? I also asked her
does she want to break up for any apparent reason, and she said that she doesn't want to. She told her friends I am the right guy for her, but she shows little-to-no affection
towards me for the last week. I would understand her if she wants to break up if she has a reason to, but she said she is really affected. I don't want to sound selfish, but
how long should I wait? I can't take this anymore, it's really killing me ya know... Most likely I'll call her once more tomorrow, and if we don't settle this once and for all, I might
have to break up with her, which is something I'd like to avoid.

So that's it, thanks in advance! ~

[DarkTrinity]

Woah that's a novel, but I did read it all.
My first thought is, it's only been a month, it's not too serious yet. Maybe she didn't want to tell you about her dad at first, which is why she was so untalkative, for the lack of a better word... But then she came to the conclusion that she should tell you what's wrong since you told her you were bothered by it. When my boyfriend's dad was dying(and has since passed) he told me the minute he knew something was wrong, but we had also been dating 3 years at that time. And I'm not really sure I buy the "Hey, I've got some personal
stuff to take care of first, we might not be able to see each other for a week or two"... If my boyfriend told me that, even only after one month, It wouldn't really be enough for me. Especially if her dad is dying or undergoing treatment, she'd have to tell you eventually anyways, and cancer doesn't last just a few weeks. She'll be dealing with this for a long time...
My boyfriend had the same problem with me when we were first dating; he would call me like 3 times a day to talk to me, which is fine (but to me seem a lil weird since my past boyfriends would call like, once a week). And he got annoyed because I would never call him. Honestly, I didn't realize it, I didn't realize it would be a problem. I guess I more saw it as a "you're calling so we can talk to eachother, it doesn't matter who's the one to make the call" type of thing. I just got use to him being the one who called. (that and I'm not a very talkative person, so I'm not big on calling people)

I'm rather optimistic and trusting of people, I like to see the good in them off the bat. So I'm not one to say "She's lying to you, don't trust her!" Not that I believe she's doing anything horrible behind your back in the first place. It's just that people think differently, they look at situations and handle them differently. Maybe she's one that can't handle stress of her father having cancer, a super tight schedule, plus being in a relationship all at the same time. It sounds like she's trying to deal with it, but it's stressing her out. It doesn't sound like she wants to end things with you.
My opinion is to see it through, and support her while she's going through this whole ordeal with her dad. (I don't think you mentioned, but is her mom still around, or is it just her and her dad?) It might all just depend on how the whole situation with her dad goes. If he's able to beat it, things could possibly turn around. Or until you both have less on your plate to deal with.
Also, if you see each other every single day, and talk on the phone 6 times a day, you're gonna get sick of eachother real fast. lol. Just sayin.